Here is a new revolutionary concept in GRIEF COUNSELLING and stress management, the "HAD BAD experience" Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools, (a Grief Counselling and stress management Tool). They can be used to quickly and easily teach EVERYONE about the SIX (6) STAGES of GRIEF.
These three (3) REVOLUTIONARY GRIEF COUNSELLING TOOLS allow EVERYONE to quickly and easily learn and identify the six (6) stages of grief. The more people that know and are aware of the six (6) stages of grief, the more likely those in need can be identified and helped.
Additionally, as an added benefit, the three (3) HAD BAD experience Teaching Models also allow EVERYONE to rapidly IDENTIFY HIGH RISK INDIVIDUALS. This can help PREVENT tragedies before they happen... including depression, self-destructive behavior, suicides & shootings.
Since the "HAD BAD experience" Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools are as easy to learn as tying a shoelace, EVERYONE will hopefully eventually learn this acronym enabling them to help themselves and others in need.
I originally developed these three (3) Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools to help people identify, recognize and deal with (dis)stress. The CUMULATIVE EFFECTS of minor stresses can lead to a major (dis)stress, which in turn can lead to various addictions, depression, Burn Out and even PTSD, or worse.
Simple, logical and easy to learn and memorize by EVERYONE, in seconds!
The "HAD BAD experience" Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools, (a Grief Counselling and stress management Tool):
"HAD BAD experience" Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools, (a Grief Counselling and stress management Tool):
allows anyone to quickly learn about the six (6) stages of Grief in minutes so that they can counsel someone in need on a napkin in a restaurant if this should become a necessity.
The easy to remember acronym "HAD BAD experience" says it all.
Most people who need counselling do not seek help. This simple & easy to learn counselling tool allows anyone to quickly learn & recognize the stages of grief: managers, co-workers, friends... family. Thus allowing immediate intervention, increasing the likelihood of positive outcomes, and improving the chances that the dis-stressed individual will be encouraged to seek professional help, or at least talk about the issues with significant others. Both proven factors in successfully and constructively resolving the issues.
At risk individuals left to their own devices, without the constructive support of friends, family, counselling and/or educational tools such as these Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools have a greater probability of ending in tragedy.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (1926-2004) was a psychiatrist who first pioneered research into the stages of grief with dying patients. She published her findings in the groundbreaking book On Death and Dying in 1969, followed by Death: The Final Stage of Growth in 1975.
Since then much more research has been done on this subject, and many more books have been written on this topic to advance our knowledge.
Hans Selye (1907-1982) was a pioneering endocrinologist who conducted much important scientific work on the hypothetical nefarious effects of distress (too much stress) on cells, tissues and life itself. He published his findings in two books: The Stress of Life (1956), and Stress without Distress (1974).
In 1967 two psychiatrists, Thomas Holmes (1919-89) & Richard Rahe, examined the medical records of over 5,000 medical patients as a way to determine whether stressful events might cause illnesses.
A positive correlation was found between the life events of these patients and their illnesses.
The results of this study were published as the Social Readjustment Rating Scale (SRRS), known more commonly as the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale.
Based on these studies & findings, and many more, I have concluded that there are actually SIX (6) STAGES to GRIEF.
They may or may not be linear. Some stages may be skipped, appear in a different order, and sometimes several stages might even occur simultaneously like a huge crashing ocean wave mixing everything together at the same time. Grief is very volatile for some people, and in certain circumstances. It is not the same for everyone, but the principles remain the same.
For training and educational purposes, the "HAD BAD experience" Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools are perfect for their simplicity and ease to memorize.
Empirical evidence has eloquently demonstrated that HPE is a stage of growth. It is essential for moving on: HOPE that L♥VE, HAPPINESS and LIFE itself are possible even after tragedy. People who lose hope can do desperate things. Hope is essential for life.
Terrorism (and suicides, homicide-suicides) are often acts of desperate hopelessness.
Hope is also essential in death, although it is more important and critical to survivors, those who need the will to go on.
For the dying, they need the HOPE that there is a Heaven, (if religious). Everyone needs the HOPE that they will be remembered, Loved, appreciated, cherished... even after death. HOPE that the family will be ok even when they are no longer there to manage, supervise and help resolve problems...
HOPE goes beyond Acceptance. Much like "Self-Actualisation" goes beyond "Esteem" in Maslow's Hierarchy of Human Needs, (Abraham Maslow, 1908-70).
HOPE is essential for life... at least a happy, constructive and productive life.
Mass migration is a result of hopelessness. Refugees flee areas of hopelessness risking everything, including their life and the lives of their loved ones, often abandoning everything they own to flee.
The most practical, entertaining and useful book on stress I have read so far is The Joy of Stress (1985) by Peter G. Hanson, a Family and Sports Medicine Physician. He is also a comedian. This book is hilarious!
HAD BAD experience Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools, (a Grief Counselling and stress management Tool). They are compatible and harmonious with all religions, and they are backed by science.
Rick Blatter B.Ed., M.Sc.