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Stress & Trauma (PTSD, etc.) management TOOL...

HAD BAD 1: (HOPE = Stairway to Heaven on Earth.)

HAD BAD 1: (HOPE = Stairway to Heaven on Earth.)
HAD BAD 2: Roller-Coaster of Emotions during GRIEF, Stress & Trauma.
HAD BAD 3: (GREATNESS (or at least Betterment) and Choice.)

Here is a  NEW REVOLUTIONARY  concept in  GRIEF COUNSELLING, Stress & Trauma (PTSD, etc.) management, the "HAD BAD experience" Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools, (a Grief Counselling, Stress & Trauma management Tool). They can be used to quickly and easily teach EVERYONE about the SIX  (6) STAGES of GRIEF.

These three (3) REVOLUTIONARY GRIEF COUNSELLING TOOLS allow EVERYONE to quickly and easily learn and identify the six (6) stages of  GRIEF  using a  THREE (3) DIMENSIONAL VIEW  of the "problem'/challenges. The more people that know and are aware of the six (6) stages of grief, the more likely those in need can be identified and helped.

Additionally, as an added benefit, the three (3) HAD BAD experience Teaching Models also allow EVERYONE to rapidly IDENTIFY HIGH RISK INDIVIDUALS. This can help PREVENT tragedies before they happen... including depressionaddictionsself-destructive behavior, suicides & shootings... war & terrorism.

Since  the "HAD BAD experience" Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools are  as easy to learn as tying a shoelace, EVERYONE will hopefully eventually learn this acronym enabling them to help themselves and others in need.

I originally developed these three  (3) Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools to help people identify, recognize and deal with (dis)stress. The CUMULATIVE EFFECTS of minor stresses can lead to a major  (dis)stress, which in turn can lead to various addictions, depression, Burn Out and even PTSD, or worse.

Simple, logical and easy to learn and memorize by EVERYONE, in approximately 60 seconds!

The "HAD BAD experience" Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools, (a  GRIEF Counselling, Stress & Trauma management Tool), gives a 3 (THREE) DIMENSIONAL VIEW of the "problem" and challenges, and: 

allows anyone to quickly learn about the  SIX (6) stages of GRIEF  in minutes so that they can counsel someone in need on a napkin in a restaurant if this should become a necessity.

The easy to remember acronym "HAD BAD experience" says it all.

Most people who need counselling do not seek help. This simple & easy to learn counselling tool allows anyone to quickly learn & recognize the stages of grief: managers, co-workers, friends... family. Thus allowing immediate intervention, increasing the likelihood of positive outcomes, and improving the chances that the dis-stressed individual will be encouraged to seek professional help, or at least talk about the issues with significant others. Both proven factors in successfully and constructively resolving the issues.

At risk individuals left to their own devices, without the constructive support of friends, family, counselling and/or educational tools such as these Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools have a greater probability of ending in tragedy.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (1926-2004) was a psychiatrist who first pioneered research into the stages of grief with dying patients. She  published her findings in the groundbreaking book On Death and Dying in 1969, followed by Death: The Final Stage of Growth in 1975.

Since then much more research has been done on this subject, and many more books have been written on this topic to advance our knowledge.

Hans Selye (1907-1982) was a pioneering endocrinologist who conducted much important scientific work on the hypothetical nefarious effects of distress (too much stress) on cells, tissues and life itself. He published his findings in two books: The Stress of Life (1956), and  Stress without Distress (1974).

In 1967 two psychiatrists, Thomas Holmes (1919-89) & Richard Rahe, examined the medical records of over 5,000 medical patients as a way to determine whether stressful events might cause illnesses.

A positive correlation was found between the life events of these patients and their illnesses.

The results of this study were published as the Social Readjustment Rating Scale (SRRS),  known more commonly as the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale.


Based on these studies & findings, and many more, I have concluded that there are actually SIX (6) STAGES to GRIEF.

They may or may not be linear. Some stages may be skipped, appear in a different order, and sometimes several stages might even occur simultaneously like a huge crashing ocean wave mixing everything together at the same time. Grief is very volatile for some people, and in certain circumstances. It is not the same for everyone, but the principles remain the same.

For training and educational purposes, the "HAD BAD experience" Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools are perfect for their simplicity and ease to memorize.

Empirical evidence has eloquently demonstrated that HSmilePE is a stage of growth. It is essential for moving on: HOPE that   L♥VE HAPPINESS and LIFE  itself are possible even after tragedy. People who lose hope can do desperate things. Hope is essential for life.

Terrorism  (and suicides, homicide-suicides) are often acts of desperate hopelessness.

Hope is also essential in death, although it is more important and critical to survivors, those who need the will to go on.

For the dying, they need the HOPE that there is a Heaven, (if religious). Everyone needs the HOPE that they will be remembered, Loved, appreciated, cherished... even after death. HOPE that the family will be ok even when they are no longer there to manage, supervise and help resolve problems...

HOPE goes beyond Acceptance. Much like "Self-Actualisation" goes beyond "Esteem" in Maslow's Hierarchy of Human Needs, (Abraham Maslow, 1908-70).

HOPE is essential for life... at least a happy, constructive and productive life.

Mass migration is a result of hopelessness. Refugees flee areas of hopelessness risking everything, including their life and the lives of their loved ones, often abandoning everything they own to flee.

The most practical, entertaining and useful book on stress I have read so far is The Joy of Stress (1985) by Peter G. Hanson, a Family and Sports Medicine Physician. He is also a comedian. This book is hilarious!

HAD BAD experience Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools, (a Grief Counselling, Stress & Trauma management Tool). They are compatible and harmonious with all religions, and they are backed by science.

Rick Blatter  B.Ed., M.Sc.

(514) 953-9599


HAD BAD 1: (HOPE = Stairway to Heaven on Earth.)
HAD BAD 2: (Roller-Coaster of Emotions during GRIEF, Stress & Trauma.)
HAD BAD 3: (GREATNESS (or at least Betterment) and Choice.)
Maslow's Hierarchy of Human Needs:
HOPE goes beyond Acceptance. Much like "Self-Actualisation" goes beyond "Self-Esteem" in Maslow's Hierarchy of Human Needs, (Abraham Maslow, 1908-70).

"For my JEM":

The Lottery of Life:
Some people win, some people lose, most just break even.

L♥️VE, The Lottery of Love:
Some LUCKY people seem to hook up with the right FANTASTIC partner
 right off the bat. Others get stuck with less than expected. 
Some never find love at all, or screw up all the chances they ever had.

HEALTH, The Lottery of Health:
Some LUCKY people seem to have it all, despite not really taking care of it at all. 
Others try as they will, seem to lose it no matter what.

WEALTH, The Lottery of Wealth:
Some LUCKY people seem to be in the right place at the right time from the start. 
Others work hard and mighty all their Life, sometimes they succeed, 
sometimes they don't. Most just chase an elusive dream, 
or don't even try at all.

FAME, The Lottery of Fame:
Many a person wants to be famous, including me. Some attain it almost effortlessly, 
others take years to achieve. But for the masses, it's just something they watch on TV.

  HAPPINESS  : The most important factor and ingredient of all. 
It is totally independent of them all. It comes from within, 
but is certainly helped by good family, friends, and working on constructive ends. 

  HAPPINESS   is not a lottery at all.


Teens & Children's version

versus Depression

HAPPINESS is the opposite of depression.

Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide,
and is a major contributor to the overall global burden of

Top 11 MOST EFFECTIVE treatments for Depression: (Industrialized nations/ "rich countries")

1) WELLNESS with PLEASURE: keeping yourself free from debilitating sickness, disease & pain.

2) FITNESS with PLEASURE: keeping yourself active and "FIT for LIFE".

3) LIFE SUCCESS: having a usefulconstructive and beneficial purpose in life. Help make the world a better place for EVERYONE, everything, everywhere. Doing good deeds releases serotonin into your bloodstream, the natural intrinsic HAPPINESS drug. Progressive Realization of Lifetime Goals (PRLG), based on  L♥️VE  (LOVE) & Loving Relationships is the Foundation of HAPPINESS. Becoming The Best You Can Be.

4) Get adequate rest and sleep. Most people require ~8 hrs sleep per night. Respect your Circadian Rhythm more often than not. Pay back sleep debt ASAP on your next regular sleep cycle.

5) Re-create your energy and motivation through healthy RECREATION. Play outdoors. Get plenty of sunshine and sunlight. Sunshine & sunlight causes your body to naturally produce serotonin, the natural intrinsic HAPPINESS drug.

6) EDUCATION & RESOURCES: Learn about what you need to know. Read self-help books, watch inspirational movies, get involved with a constructive support group(s). Learn about stress management & GRIEF Counselling.  (See HAD BAD experience Teaching Models/ Counselling Tools.)

7) SUPPORTIVE FAMILY and/or FRIENDS to talk to.

8) LAUGHTER:  Laugh often. Laughing causes your body to produce serotonin, the natural intrinsic HAPPINESS drug in your body. Develop a good sense of humour. Look for and find comedy in everything, or almost everything: books, movies, comedians... jokes.
Laughter is a therapy!

(Watch True Story: Patch Adams,  https://youtu.be/_ZgdyDvPCDE )

9) Counselling if necessary: having someone qualified listen to you constructively, & to talk to.

10) St John's Wort tea. Drinking St John's Wort tea showed more positive results at relieving depression than pharmaceuticals in various studies.

11) If all else fails, you may require pharmaceuticals, perhaps controversial SSRIs. Avoid alcohol & drugs if possible.

MOST EFFECTIVE treatments for Depression: (Underdeveloped nations/ "poor countries")

Depression & Suicides: industrialized countries  vs  underdeveloped countries.

Depression as measured by suicides due to depression in industrialized countries vs underdeveloped countries is 2:1 (two to one).

Global burden of depressive disorders in the year 2000:

Overall, in high-income countries the burden of depressive disorders was  8.9%,
whereas in middle- and low-income countries the burden was  4.1%

of the total DALYs. (The Disability-Adjusted Life Year (DALY) is a measure of overall disease burden,
expressed as the number of years lost due to ill-health, disability or early death.)

However, the CAUSE of depression is totally different.

In industrialized countries suicide because of depression is usually due to an unhappiness with life as a result of a lack of meaning and purpose in life.

Whereas in underdeveloped countries suicide because of depression is usually due to a lack of economic hope. (Financial HOPELESSNESS.)

The end result is the same: death by suicide. However, the CAUSE and SOLUTION are totally different.

In industrialized nations the SOLUTION is to help those that are "depressed" find a constructive
Please see:

Whereas in underdeveloped nations the SOLUTION is to help the "depressed" find economic  HSmilePE  (HOPE).
The better solution would be to help EVERYONE improve their economic outlook and status, EVERYWHERE.
Please see:

The End of Poverty?

☆   Perhaps a viable economic solution would be to connect those suffering from a lack of meaning & purpose in life with those suffering from economic hopelessness.

Education and mentoring could be mutually beneficial.

☆  Reasonable interest rates.

☆  Debt forgiveness for those that have paid SEVERAL TIMES the principal already.

Rick Blatter  B.Ed., M.Sc.

Fitness, Wellness, Safety,   SmileHAPPINESSSmile  & Efficiency.

LIFE SUCCESS Teaching Model/ Counselling Tool

Financial HAPPINESS:

☆  Since ADEQUATE INCOME and LIVING WITHIN ONE'S MEANS are Critical Factors for HAPPINESS, I highly recommend the following three (3) excellent books to stimulate financial CREATIVITY and Life PROBLEM SOLVING skills & techniques.

ALL INNOVATIONS, (honest) MASS FORTUNES & the GREATEST CONTRIBUTIONS TO SOCIETY SOLVED SOME PROBLEM and/or NEED in Society. These three (3) books are essential reading for Life, Financial Health, overall WELLNESS, and even  HAPPINESS! Don't go through Life without reading them.

In order to STIMULATE YOUR MIND to find CREATIVE SOLUTIONS to challenges & problems in Life, here are 3 (three) of The BEST books I have ever read in this field:

1) Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

2) How To Be Rich by J. Paul Getty.

3) Warren Buffett in his own words.

Warren Buffett is the 3rd richest man in the world. At 88 he still goes to work every day because he ENJOYS working.

He is one of the world’s most respected businessmen, not just because of his savvy investments and unmatched record of returns, but also because of his humilitycandor, and refreshing perspective on wealth. His goal is to give away all his wealth to charities before he dies, in order to
HELP The People of THE WORLD.

ALL  these books STIMULATE  CREATIVITY and gear the brain towards looking for POSITIVE SOLUTIONS to the world's problems.

"POSSIBILITY THINKING" vs "impossibility thinking". 
(Impossible vs

For more information contact:

Rick Blatter  B.Ed., M.Sc.

(514) 953-9599

Fitness, Wellness, Safety,

🙂HAPPINESS🙃  & Efficiency.



Some  EXCELLENT  books on GRIEF & loss:

1)  ON DEATH AND DYING (1969) by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.
What the dying have to teach doctors, nurses, clergy and their own families.

2)  WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE (1981),  by Harold S. Kushner

3)  7 LESSONS FROM HEAVEN (2017), Mary C. Neal, M.D.
How dying Taught Me to Live a Joy-filled Life.

4)   The Ugly One in the Middle  (2014), Alex Stan Campbell
An adoptee's wicked and hilarious search for identity and love.

5)   From This Moment On  (2011), Shania Twain
From poverty & domestic violence, to unbelievable tragedy... and on to Queen of Country Pop!

6)  The JOY of STRESS  (1985), Peter G. Hanson, M.D.
How to Make Stress Work for You! (Hilarious & Informative)


God's Test Questions, (The "final exam"):

Based on "Near Death Experience" (NDE) research,
regardless of your religion, belief system, or lack thereof,
 these are the 3 (three) test questions you will be asked:

1) What did you learn about  L♥VE ?   (LOVE)

2) What did you do with the special skill/ gift you were given?

3) How did you make the world a better place for  EVERYONE, everything, everywhere?

Some  EXCELLENT  films on GRIEF, loss, and turning Adversity into  OPPORTUNITY and HSmilePE:


Let's talk about SEX:
They thought she was crazy, but it turned out she was repeatedly raped & beaten as a child. With LOVE, patience, training and understanding she went on to become one of the world's GREATEST Pediatric Psychiatrists:

Anger Management:

Children's movies for ADULTS TOO:

Are you a NOBODY that wants to be a "SOMEBODY" ?


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The Benefits of HAPPINESS:
  • Increases Productivity
  • Promotes Wellness
  • Improves Cooperation
  • Promotes Peace & Tolerance
  • Promotes Honesty
  • Fosters a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA)

  • Feel Better
  • Work Better
  • Have more ENERGY
  • Treat Family, Friends & Customers Better...

  • Decreases Absenteeism
  • Reduces Sickness & Disease
  • Decreases Arguments & Fights
  • Reduces Hostility
  • Prevents Theft,  Vandalism, and Crime 
  • Counteracts Negativity (Negative Mental Attitude = NMA)


Certification for INDIVIDUALS:

The key to HAPPINESS is an OPEN HEART and OPEN MIND. Learn how to  FREE YOURSELF  from the  Advertising Brainwashing  and  Political Propaganda  that has usurped your HAPPINESS over the years. Learn How to  Be HAPPY  by putting out the  GARBAGE  that is clogging your brain and interfering with your happiness. This is what "ENLIGHTENMENT" is all about, letting go of everything except that which is essential ! 

Please visit:




An EXCELLENT book on converting/ transforming Adversity into OPPORTUNITY is:

THINK and GROW RICH, by Napoleon Hill


Certification for BU$INE$$

A New Management Concept / Philosophy that emphasizes the importance of Profitability and Productivity while still treating people like Human Beings rather than chattel.

Competes with ISO Certification, but uses a Humane Approach to Management Philosophy emphasizing  EDUCATION, COOPERATIONMOTIVATIONCreativityInnovation  and Humour rather than: Oppositional Management, Confrontation,  Overcontrol, Bureaucratic Constipation  and  Mass Layoffs / Downsizing / Firings ...  treating people like chattel rather than human beings.

Learn How to keep yourself and your employees HAPPY, HEALTHY, MOTIVATED and PRODUCTIVE in order to achieve your company's BEST Performance possible, using a win-win, mutually beneficial management style and approach that treats Customers, Employees, Management, Investors and Suppliers with the Dignity and Respect they deserve.

Treating Human Beings like Human Beings increases Productivity, Profits and Performance while decreasing absenteeism, turnover and theft / vandalism... workplace violence.    GoHAPPINESS !

Please visit:  www.RickBlatter.com 


See also:   The 7  HABITS of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.


Certification for Governments

GoHAPPINESS  Certification  for  RAH  (Responsible, Accountable, Honest)  Governments:

1. RESPONSIBILITY: The RAH (Responsible, Accountable, Honest) Government must  promise to treat its citizens like  HUMAN BEINGS rather than chattel to be milked, or as is too often the case today: bled until dry.

SOLUTION:  The RAH (Responsible, Accountable, Honest) Government must Constitutionally  Limit  itself to "Taxing" its citizens NO MORE  than 20% of their Gross Income.  Corporations / Businesses  must  not  be "Taxed" more than 20% of their profits. RESPONSIBILITY (of the Government) is ensured by limiting their capacity to extort limitless amounts of money from its citizenry (chattel) as is often the case today... and then we read about "foreign bank accounts" stuffed with cash that was siphened off.

2. ACCOUNTABILITY: Elected and Appointed Government Officials will be held ACCOUNTABLE for all money / budgets they are entrusted with. Any "missing" money or unaccountable "expenses" will be deducted from the salary of the RESPONSIBLE Government Official's salary.

3. HONESTY: To ensure that the RAH (Responsible, Accountable, Honest) Government remains HONEST, all Elected and Appointed Government Officials will be subject to the Three (3) Strikes Rule for RAH (Responsible, Accountable, Honest) Governments:

  1. Any Elected / Appointed Government Official caught in a flagrant lie pertaining to "false election promises" or the direct execution of their job, will be fined ONE YEAR'S SALARY for the first lie,
  2. TWO YEAR'S SALARY for the second lie, and
  3. THREE YEAR'S SALARY for the third lie at which time the thrice lying Government Official will be immediately IMPEACHED and Fired.

See also:  The 7 HABITS of Highly Effective People   by Stephen Covey.

Consider  espousing




rather than promoting the politics of hatred: suppression, oppression and  repression  for everyone except the inner circle of select "elite" who are exempt from the same "laws" that apply to everyone else.

Send Certification Requests to:


Rick Blatter  B.Ed., M.Sc.

C.P. 1553
Succ. St-Martin Stn.
Laval, QC H7V 3P8


(514) 953-9599


Gross National Happiness (GNH):

In 1972 the King of the tiny country of Bhutan decided to measure Gross National HAPPINESS (GNH) rather than Gross National Product (GNP) or Gross Domestic Product (GDP) as an indicator of "success" in his country.

FORTY (40) YEARS LATER, as of 2012, the UN started measuring Gross National Happiness (GNH) as one of the indicators of QUALITY OF LIFE in ALL Countries throughout the world. 

HAPPINESS, or lack thereof, has become an important metric of evaluation & comparison amongst the different nations around the globe. This is especially important considering:

Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide,
and is a major contributor to the overall global burden of

GNH (Gross National Happiness):

Watch "The Story of Drew Binsky" on YouTube (~1 min):

HAPPINESS to counter Anxiety, Anger, Aggression, Addictions, Bullying... Crime, Violence, Suicide...
Homicide, Terrorism and War(s)?

GNH (Gross National Happiness):

Bhutan: watch "The World's Happiest Country" (Gross National Happiness) on YouTube (~3 mins):

(Curiously the UN lists it #95 in the world?)

UN, These are the 10 Happiest Countries in the World (2019):

1. Finland
2. Denmark
3. Norway
4. Iceland
5. Netherlands
6. Switzerland
7. Sweden
8. New Zealand
9. Canada
10. Austria

15. UK

17. Germany

19. USA

24. France

(156 countries listed)

Happiest countries in the world 2019 | Atlas & Boots (156 entries): https://www.atlasandboots.com/happiest-countries-in-the-world-ranked

The 3 (Three) major ingredients to HAPPINESS:

1) Loving Relationships, (L♥️VE❣), (LOVE).

2) Self-Actualization (Personal Fulfillment, becoming The BEST You Can Be) by using your special gift/skills either at work (enjoying your job) and/or using these special gifts/skills only you possess in your personal life to help yourself and your Loved Ones, in addition to  Everyone, Everything, Everywhere. (Universal Conectivity. All  HEALTHY  Religions believe in helping their fellow man/woman. This is Basic Human Decency.)

3) Helping OTHERS. Whereas many unhappy people who constantly try to chase happiness for themselves fail, those who learn that HELPING OTHERS brings HAPPINESS to themselves too, succeed in attaining HAPPINESS.

Interestingly the above HAPPINESS research coincides with Near Death Experience (NDE) research: